good company
I had a migraine last weekend, hence I did not have the capacity to post on here. It was the kind of migraine that brought me to tears. I have realized that women around me experience migraines and we handle them in different ways. I hope we all take time to rest and use whatever method works to ease the pain.
I did have a genuine appreciation for company. I now understand why dying alone is not worth experiencing. So incase you’re skeptical about the benefits of relating with people, making friends, or fellowshipping since things are opening up. Let me tell you what my migraine experience taught:
The little things matter: my husband (first time I have typed that ever!) has soulful eyes and when soulful eyes look at you when you’re experiencing something with genuine concern, it almost takes all the pain away. The little things like having someone to describe the pain you’re in to, someone trying to make it better, or someone there to sit with you, is unexplainable. The thoughts that are provoked, the actions you witness, and sometimes just the aura of people around you matters. Enough said.
Stronger together: I did stretches last week Sunday because I had a willing companion and no it didn’t help me feel better. In fact, the throbbing worsened but I felt accomplished. I hadn’t achieved much that day after church, I couldn’t create or post on here. But I completed an exercise because I had a supportive individual willing to support me through whatever idea I thought would ease the pain. The same goes with staying grounded, living with someone else means there are two people willing to be prayerful, active and healthy. To stay active, I have enlisted a friend to go on walks and there is stronger will to go out for two as opposed to one.
Gratitude: two things happen in the company of other people. They either are complainers and teach you to complain or they illuminate blessings in your life or help you count your blessings. My husband (second time I’m typing that!) is in the second group. He finds pros in the weirdest situations. He probably thinks the migraine was good for me because it helped me rest. He also reminds me that working from home has been a blessing because I tend to forget.
Inspiration: I had no idea what to write today and if you cannot tell already, the husband (my third!) is the inspiration. I remember when I was doing my final project in my fourth year as an undergrad. I taught Sunday school and I had no idea what to work on. I had an initial topic but teaching Sunday school gave me the inspiration to look into children’s literature, which I throughly enjoyed. Even though I changed my topic midway, I finished my project before anyone else and I was the top of my class. Inspiration is an undervalued term/experience. Fellowship definitely inspires.
Fellowship: I think we need inspiration to be motivated and we get inspired when we fellowship or are in good company. I find the best kind of inspiration in church on Sunday. And one of the reasons why I knew my husband (my fourth!) was gold was that he hardly missed a church service in the the three years I have known him. I know he’ll motivate me to go in even when I don’t want to and vice versa. When I go, I know I have gained. If you want to feel inspired, I advise you to get out there and be like David! One of the most inspired/inspirational people ever.
Psalm 122:1 I was glad when they said unto me, “Let us go into the house of the Lord.”
In essence, fellowship has inspired me, filled me with joy, and motivated me to do and be better. I know there are cons. Human beings are complex and disagreements can occur in the place of fellowship but there’s joy to be found even in those moments. There are lessons to be learned and there’s character to build.
~ Oluwatomisin Oyegoke ~